parenting: when a child is throwing a tantrum, reasoning is useless, and communication is only effective
parents who pass by the toy area of the mall and toys r us must walk around, please raise your hand! i am really afraid, worried that the child will plunge into it, pull it away, see everything i want to buy, buy and buy, and cry and make trouble if i don’t buy it.
and the child’s crying often puts parents in a dilemma:
1, adhere to the principle of not buying, the child may cry for a long time, but also trigger onlookers, and worry about the child after leaving a psychological shadow;
2, if the heart is soft to buy, in the future in the encounter with this situation the child may become more intense, what should be done in this situation?
very common scenario
when the child is throwing a tantrum and rolling, it is useless to be reasonable, and it is necessary to communicate in this way to be effective
there is a mother in the mall with her child to buy things, when passing the children’s play area, the child wants to go to the ocean ball to play, the time is a little late, the mother also thinks that the child will play for a long time, so she did not agree, the result of the child directly splashing and rolling, crying.
the mother did not lose her temper, just gave the child a good reason, but the child just did not listen, the child’s father was more powerful, went up and gave the child a few feet, and then the child was honest.
although the father’s approach is very undesirable, it also shows a problem, that is, when the child loses his temper, parents should no longer be silly and reasonable, which is of no great use.
but when a child loses his temper, what to do? let’s share two methods to see which one your child is more suitable for.
when the child is throwing a tantrum and rolling, it is useless to be reasonable, and it is necessary to communicate in this way to be effective
first, in the face of children’s crying, parents can use cold treatment.
when the child is crying, parents must first keep calm and not be angry with the child because of the child’s temper.
in the case of children crying in the mall, parents should not care too much about the people around them, they can ignore them for the time being, look at some other things first, or chat with others, so that children feel that their parents do not care about his behavior. of course, let the child be within his own line of sight, to ensure the safety of the child as the premise.
when the child is tired of crying, he hugs the child and touches his head, saying in a gentle tone, “you’re angry now, aren’t you?” mom knows you’re angry because she didn’t buy you toys, right? but the mother still loves you very much ~ ” during this period, do not reason with the child, because the child’s emotions have not subsided, and the more you explain, the more you stimulate the child.
